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The future
With the help of SuperSpy, I believe Supergirl starts kindergarten tomorrow.
Will I find out from L? Doubt it.
Feeling melancholy and not in the mood to write.
UGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH
http://www.wsaw.com/home/headlines/48289912.html
One would think a worker at the agency would know the correct terminology and that the proof reader would realize that they quoted her twice.
The law says you cannot give your baby to somebody without taking the mandatory legal steps.
the story:
Stevens Point police allege Bobbi Jo, 32, and Jason Dolski, 30, took a baby from a woman more than a year ago illegally.
The couple faces charges of child abduction, unauthorized adoption and lying on a birth certificate. They’re being held in Portage County Jail.
Adoption is a complicated process that must involve a licensed adoption agency.
The danger of giving your baby away without the legal documentation is not knowing what could happen to the child.
Hope Pregnancy Resource Center in Wausau works with women facing pregnancies they weren’t expecting.
The executive director wants birth mothers to realize they do have support, and that it’s a good idea to get lots of information and weigh your options before making any major decisions.
And if you do decide on adoption, you must seek professional help from a licensed agency.
“Now it’s worked out that birth mom really has a lot of control. Now she can if she chooses, she can choose the family, she can interview the family, she gets a biography about the family, so pictures and things that she’ll know about the family,” said Janna Janke.
Many birth moms choose to have an open adoption, meaning they can have direct contact with their biological child throughout his or her life.
“Now it’s worked out that birth mom really has a lot of control. She can choose the family, she can interview the family, she gets a biography about the family,” Janke said.
She says unfortunately many women who face unexpected pregnancies are scared, in denial and feel alone.
And that’s when support is so important.
According to Lutheran Social Services, though you can’t buy a baby, birth mothers can receive up to $5,000 in some cases. But that’s only for a birth mom’s needs such as medical expenses, helping with rent, and transportation costs.
On average, about 120,000 children are adopted each year in the U.S.
Again, I had control of the situation? Oh yes that is right never did I have any control. I don’t have control now and I didn’t then.
I did not have the biography of the paps. I only received a 2 page selling.
Nana again
Chemo was taken off the table.
Nana is pretty much unresponsive and with altered mental status. She has O2 and that isn’t helping much.
She has so much toxin in her system that she now has oozing sores. (I know it isn’t pretty but this is my life)
Grampy has talked to a funeral home and he will follow her wishes. No added expense to anyone.
No funeral. No service. No memorial.
She will be cremated and then he and my Mother will walk down to the end of the street with her ashes and scatter them and go home.
I broke down on the phone with Mom yesterday. Just thinking about it and I break down some more.
I just hope that she goes peacefully, without pain.
I hope she knows how much I love her.
How much I love the traits that I have inherited from her. #1 being — starting to go grey at 16 and coloring since 21. Nana has been coloring her hair black since she was 18.
Double O parties. Must find the recipe for that.
Come as you are breakfasts for MDA.
Annual camp shows.
Music.
Books.
Having a good time.
Nana
I know it has been awhile since I have written anything. It is just there isn’t really anything to write.
E still hasn’t talked to L. Well that was as of last week.
Since then that and adoption has been placed on the back burner.
My Mother called last Friday. My Nana is the CCU. She went unresponsive last week. Her kidneys failed (they have since come back).
She doesn’t go to the doctor so she has cataracts, and a double hernia that she has done nothing about.
She was diagnosed with a form of blood leukemia.
I was told Chemo was off the table because she is so weak and weighs about 80 lbs wet.
That changed yesterday with an update from my Mom.
Chemo starts tomorrow.
I am angry that I am so far away from them.
I am angry that her doctors are going to do this to this woman.
I am just angry and hating the world and Missing Supergirl.
I need a night where I don’t cry myself to sleep.
Really
Typical Open Adoption
A typical open adoption means that the biological parents
are permitted to have some type of contact with the adopted
child.
This can be accomplished many different ways. By phone is
the easiest way but sometimes e-mail, letters, or even
personal visits might be an option.
This contact doesn’t always mean both sets of parents will
ever meet each other in person. Many times the adoption
agency or other organization will receive pictures and
updates from the adoptive parents and forward them to the
biological parents.
Obviously, having the adoptive parents spend time with the
biological parents might be an uncomfortable ordeal for
everyone.
Before the adoption takes place, all types of contact as
well as specific dates for visits or phone calls are
arranged.
This schedule and set of rules is very important to the
biological parents who have agreed to the open adoption. By
not getting pictures when expected or missing phone calls,
it can be very emotionally stressful.
By using the adoption agency as a middle man, it saves a
lot of emotional stress for everyone involved. The agency
acts as a mediator so the adoptive parents don’t have to
deal with the biological parents directly.
It is much easier for adoptive parents to really feel the
child is there own if there is minimal interference from
the biological parents but sometimes it just isn’t an
option
*bold are mine to make a point.
I came across this little gem and was this close to yelling at my computer.
So this person believes that I am an interference in MY daughters life?
Sorry to tell you that that ANY action done by the agency means a SEMI open adoption. If it was a true open adoption, they would have last names, phone numbers and addresses while you would have last name, phone number and address. NO MIDDLE MAN NEEDED!!
A typical open adoption:
- no middle man
- all information is exchanged from both sides
- there are visits, phone calls, letters, photos
- you do not view the first parent as an interference
- spend time with the expectant mother if you are matched beforehand, this may actually help everyone involved
sorry
I have been quiet again. Not that I have been meaning to. However, things at work are weird and I like my job so I will stay away from the internet while at work.
I do have some things posted.
A fun little thing.
An evil thing that I did. well, not evil I was informed by others whom I asked their opinions.
Dealing with life. Some days that is just the hardest thing to do and takes all of my energy.
so more later.
Life
I have been quiet.
I have been quiet all over the place.
I have gone out and appeared to have a good time.
Only to cry in my car on the drive home.
Right now, I am dealing with some thing outside of adoption and Supergirl and the evil that is her mother.
So right now I will continue to be quiet.
